Divorce/Dissolution

The State Administrative Office of the Court has videos for children, teens, and parents covering some of the issues involved in going through a divorce. See Families Change - Your Guide to Separation and Divorce.

Visit the Self-Help Workshop web page to see if there is a workshop where you can get help with the forms.

1. Options for handling your divorce case
   • Ask a lawyer to help you. You can look for a lawyer in the phone book or call the Lawyer Referral Service of the Santa Clara County Bar Association . Many lawyers have reasonable fees for your first consultation. Know your rights before you finish your divorce or you may lose those rights forever.
     
   • Do it yourself with help from the Self-Help Center/ Family Law Facilitator’s Office.
     
     • You can get help filing out your forms through the Virtual Divorce Workshop. Click to visit the Self Help Workshop webpage for more information about the Virtual Divorce Workshop.
     • The Self-Help Center has fliers with legal information and form samples for people who are handling their own divorces.
       
   • Do it yourself.
     
     • Download forms from the internet - see the forms section below for links to state and local forms.
     • Most libraries have copies of self-help divorce books.
     • You can buy self-help divorce books and legal forms at most book stores or online. The books often have all the forms you need. Remember: the forms change regularly. You can get the most current forms from the internet - see state forms on the Judicial Council website and local forms on this website. The Self-Help Center also has a flyer on How to Get Forms .

Resources:

• Click here for more legal resources
• See a diagram/flowchart of the Family Law process
• For other help your family might need, call organizations on our Family Resources page

The following laws and rules apply to family law cases:

• You must follow the Local Family Forms and Local Family Rules of Court for Santa Clara County.
• You must follow the California Family Code (the law) .
• Also, the divorce section of the California Courts online Self-Help Center will be helpful.

• All of the state forms are available from the Judicial Council website . Choose the "Family Law - Dissolution/Legal Separation/Annulment" option on that page from the dropdown box.
• There are also local forms you will need. See the local forms page on this website.

The Self-Help Center also has a flyer on How to Get Forms .

• Child or spousal support
• Child custody or parenting timeshare (“visitation”)
• Restraining orders

• You and your spouse can come up with an agreement that works best for your family.
• You and your spouse are both in control of the process and how quickly you finish your case
• The mediation process can be confidential
• Your agreement can be as detailed as you need and can deal with your specific needs and concerns
• Your agreement can be more creative and include all the issues that are important to you
• There is little court involvement, and
• People are more likely to follow the terms of a mediated agreement than a court-imposed order.

• To mediate about custody and parenting timeshare (“visitation”) you can work with a mediator from Family Court Services.
• To mediate about your property, child support or spousal support you can work with the Court’s Settlement Officer.

You can also hire a private mediator. There is a fee to do private mediation. See the list of family mediators on the Family Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) page on this website. You can also look up "Attorneys-Mediation" in the yellow pages of your phone book or contact the Santa Clara County Bar Association .

Collaborative Law

Collaborative law is another way of resolving your divorce without going to court. It is similar to mediation, but each party has a lawyer. Everyone agrees not to go to court except in the case of certain kinds of emergencies. If you are interested in this approach, contact the Santa Clara County Bar Association and ask for the collaborative law panel.

• Default (when the other party does not file a Response),
• Written agreement (a Response was filed and you agree), or
• Trial (a Response was filed and you don’t agree)

You cannot finish your divorce just by filing a Request for Order (also called a "Motion") and getting a court hearing.

Default: If the other party does not file a Response to the divorce papers ("defaults"), then you can get a default judgment. For help finishing your divorce this way:

• Hire a lawyer or
• Visit the Self-Help Center/Family Law Facilitator Office or
• Read a Self-Help book about what you need to do
• Click here for more information: How to Finish a Divorce by Default
• Read the Family Law Judgment Checklist . It lists the forms you need to finish your case by default.

Written agreement: If you and your husband or wife have an agreement on all issues in your divorce (uncontested), you can write up and file your agreement along with the required legal forms. For help:

• Hire an attorney or attorney-mediator to write it up for you, or
• Visit the Self-Help Center/Family Law Facilitator Office. Just know that the Self-Help Center doesn’t help with dividing community or separate assets or debts (things you own or owe), or
• Read a Self-Help book, or
• Read the Family Law Judgment Checklist . It lists the forms you need to finish your case by agreement.
• NOTE: A nullity case cannot be completed by agreement. Visit the Self-Help Center or see a private attorney for more information.

Trial: If a Response has been filed in your case and you and the other party disagree, and/or the other party is not cooperating or participating in your case, you can ask the court to set the case for trial to finalize the case.

Divorce trials do not resolve custody and parenting time issues. Those issues are resolved through a different process. See our custody and visitation web page.

If you cannot come to an agreement outside of court, a judge will decide the issues in your case at a trial. If this is your case, you should talk to a private lawyer. A private family law attorney can tell you about important legal rights and may be able represent you in trial, if you want.

Here are the steps you need to take to finish your case by trial:

Step 1: "Request for Trial": Fill out and file the Request for Trial form . Click here for instructions .

Before coming to Court, fill out a Status or Case Resolution Conference Questionnaire . See page 2 of the form for instructions about filing and service.

Step 2: Your "Status or Case Resolution Conference": The Status or Case Resolution Conference will be a chance to tell your Judge which issues you still do not agree about and for the Judge and/or court staff to review your case. You may be referred to one or more Alternative Dispute Resolution services, such as Orientation/Mediation, Early Neutral Evaluation or a Settlement Officer Conference, that can help you resolve custody and parenting time, support and property issues. (See the Family Law flyer on Alternative Dispute Resolution .) Refer to the Family Law Process page for an overview diagram of the case flow.

Step 3: Mandatory Settlement Conference: If the Judge sends you to a Mandatory Settlement Conference, you must prepare a Settlement Conference Statement. This statement gives a detailed and thoroughly documented explanation of your issue(s). You must type this pleading in proper legal form. See Local Family Rule 6 to make sure you do it correctly. There is no standard or Judicial Council form available for this.

When you go to your Mandatory Settlement Conference, a Judge Pro Tempore will work with you to settle your case. You may be able to reach a full agreement that day.

If your case is one of the very few that goes to trial, your Judge will tell you which issues will be heard at trial, how long you will get to present your case, and which witnesses will be allowed. You must follow the trial policies of the department where your trial is scheduled.

Step 4: Judgment: Whether you come to an agreement outside of court, at one of the court proceedings, or if your case is heard and decided by a Judge, you must prepare Judgment forms for the Judge to sign. Please refer to the Judgment checklist for the forms you need to fill out and file in a default or uncontested case. If you have a trial, the Judgment made will be written up on most of the forms listed in the “Uncontested Case” section (Family Law Judgment Checklist ) even though the case is contested.

• Talk with a lawyer, or
• Visit the Self-Help Center/Family Law Facilitator Office for help or referrals, or
• Read a Self-Help book.